Cut off the top of the okra and discard the stems. You will start to feel the sticky substance once you cut them, it's okay, just leave it. Bring a pot of water to a boil. Cook the okra for about 2-3 minutes. Remove and set on serving platter
In a food processor, process shallots, shrimp paste, and chili into a chunky paste
Preheat a large skillet/wok and add in the oil. Add in the ground chili paste and stir-fry until it release amazing flavor. Add in a dash of salt and sugar and taste to your liking. It should be salty but also slightly sweet at the same time. Add in the blanched okra and stir to make sure the sauce is coating the okra. Serve immediately